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Saturday, June 29, 2013

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Wednesday, June 26, 2013

It's All in a Word or Phrase?

Feel Better About Yourself: Cut These Five Words

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I hopped into a friend’s car after attending a bridal shower last weekend, and ten minutes in, I realized I had left my phone.
Almost to the train, we turned around.
I apologized to the others and then looked out the window, embarrassed.
Inside, I was fuming, pissed at myself for causing an inconvenience to all of us.
What I wanted to do was apologize over and over, to say aloud, “That was stupid. I can’t believe I did that. I’m always leaving things. So sorry, you guys.”
Had I, they then would likely say, “Don’t worry about it. It’s no big deal.”
And I, of course, would repeat, “Really, I can’t believe I did that. I’m sorry.”
Because I think that’s the natural reaction that most of us have when we inconvenience people. We feel so badly for causing others anxiety that we think that apologizing (or over-apologizing) will somehow make it a little bit better.
But instead of engaging in the runaround, what I did was ask myself what the point of saying these things over and over again would be.
I mean, I had apologized once, the decision to turn around was made, and that was it.
I already felt badly, so why would I want to perpetuate that feeling by refusing to let it go?
The above scenario – and ones like it – is only one of many examples where there’s potential to be mean to ourselves about things we’ve done, said, or felt.
And often, when others do it (over-apologize or berate themselves), we pick up on it. For a lot of us, we might even find it annoying.
In my work as an editor, I’ve often coached others in the practice of intentional (or mindful) speech. And it’s always been relatively easy.
But over the last couple of years, I’ve made feeling good about myself a priority, which meant that I needed to start editing myself and that certain words and phrases needed to go – for my comfort, as well as the comfort of those around me.
Paying attention to how I talk is key to maintaining healthy relationships.
So here are some words and phrases I’ve tried to eliminate to help stay kind and gentle to myself.

1. I’m Sorry

This was the most common phrase I caught myself saying.
I’d run into someone in the grocery store, and I’d say “sorry.”
A friend would ask for a Band-Aid, and I’d say, “I’m sorry. I don’t have one.”
Or someone would call, and I’d be indisposed and say, “I’m sorry, but I can’t talk right now.”
At all points of the day, it seemed like I was apologizing for something.
At home, I sat on my couch and thought about how when I had lived in Madrid, there was a big difference between permiso, disculpe, perdón, and lo siento.
In Spanish, lo siento, which means I’m sorry, is only used if you’ve done something actually wrong, like step on someone’s foot.
But if you need to pass by someone, you’d say permiso or perdón, which pretty much translates to excuse me.
And if you need to tap someone on the shoulder for something, you’d likely say disculpe.
As I sat longer and thought about when I would say “I’m sorry,” I realized it was more of a reflex than it was connected to an actual feeling of sorrow or regret.
I was using “I’m sorry” in place of phrases like “excuse me” or “pardon.”
In English we should reserve “I’m sorry” for the same cases where one would use “lo siento.”
By using it incorrectly and often, what I was doing was making myself feel badly for no reason.

2. Should

Ever since I can remember, there has been a “should” in my life.
I should be studying more. I should be doing my homework. I should be married with kids. I should be more established in my career.
And on it goes.
The problem with the word “should” is that it passes judgment. It makes it seem like what I’m doing at this moment isn’t good enough.
And who says I should be doing all of these things anyway?
By using “should,” I give others the power.
So what I do now is substitute “could” where I would normally say “should.”
I could be doing my homework, but right now I’m…
I could be married with kids, but I’m choosing to…
I could be more established in my career, but I’m…
By replacing “should” with “could,” I start to see the reasons why I’m not doing certain things.
And that implies that I have a choice with what I’m doing and where I’m putting my attention.
Instead of passing judgment on myself, I start to understand where I’m putting my energy and in turn accept that the reason I’m not doing x is because I’m (happily) doing y.

3. That’s Just Not Who I Am

I used to say this phrase a lot.
I would say it when I didn’t believe in myself, when I felt stupid, or when I wanted to change and be more open and transparent, but was scared to try.
“I just don’t do math,” I would say. “It’s just not who I am.”
What I learned, though, was that I could do math. And I could be open and transparent if I wanted to be. But by saying “that’s just not who I am,” I was limiting my capability to be more.
I was putting myself into a box, assigning myself a category that became an obstacle to overcome.
I got in my own way, not letting myself be open to the possibility of another story besides the one I’d been telling myself year-after-year.
It was like stopping myself before I even began.
What I started to do was notice when the phrase would come up and then ask myself if the response was because I was feeling attacked or insecure, and then I’d ask if I wanted to be that kind of person.
I have to give myself the option to choose yes or no instead of cutting myself down from the start.

4. I’ll Let You Go

If I’m on the phone and ready to hang up, I always say, “Well, let me let you go.”
Or, “I’ll let you go.”
I do this because I’m the one who needs to get going, but I don’t want to hurt the feelings of the person I’m talking to.
But the truth needs to come out. Because saying “I’ll let you go” instead of “I need to go” implies that the other person has something more important to do than talk with me.
Nobody wants to feel like they aren’t a priority. So instead of making myself feel less-than, what I do is say exactly what I’m feeling:“I have to get going.”

5. I Always / I Never

“I always forget my…”
“How come I never…”
“I’m never…”
Any time “always” or “never” comes up in conversation, I take note.
I do this because most of the time, I’m offhandedly criticizing myself.
Both are finite. They imply that there is no way to change, and there are no options to choose from.
By using “always” and “never,” I practice and learn that change is impossible.
I let my insecurities and self-doubt keep me in the same negative pattern, setting myself up for failure each time.
The less I use limiting words, the more I open myself up to becoming whomever it is I need and want to be.

By cutting certain words and phrases out of my vernacular, I’ve created more space for more positive thoughts and feelings.
Letting go of limiting speech has helped me like myself more – because now I’m not criticizing who I am at every turn. And that’s helped me make myself a priority.
Paying attention to how you use your words is core to keeping the relationship you have with yourself healthy and accepting.
If you notice yourself saying certain words and phrases over and over, look to see if they are keeping you in the same limiting belief pattern. If so, try cutting them for a week and see if you feel lighter.
It worked for me.

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Cynthia Kane is a Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism. Over the last year and a half, she’s relearned the following: how to jump up and down when she’s happy, cry when she’s sad, laugh when something’s funny, take a compliment, smile at strangers, and be open to the fact that everyone is going through it all the time. For more, visit her website or follow her on Twitter @cynkane. Read her articles here.

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Granpa Chuck
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"What's in DSM-5 to Help Alienated Children"?????-GREAT QUESTION

Although I have many Issues about the many years of Development of the DSM Manual..ie Psyco Bible, perhaps this webinar could be of assistance???
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Bernet 2010 2Dr. Bernet's Webinar 

"What's in DSM-5 to Help Alienated Children"??

Sunday June 30 at 8pm eastern time

Dr. Bernet will be our introductory webinar guest for this years series of webinars. Dr. Bernet is the lead psychiatrist of the Parental Alienation Study Group ,PASG, the group who was influential in having PA behaviours considered and eventually placed into the DSM 5.

Registration will ensure that on June 30th well before 8pm eastern time, you are given the internet and/or phone access details for the webinar. There is a $10 registration fee which can be paid online as well.

We will announce the July webinar speaker at the end of Dr. Bernet's presentation.

The actual text in the DSM 5

DSM-5_3Dthe Alienation text in the DSM 5 is broadly based and located in several sections.

We have consolidated that text and you can find it referenced here.

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Do you want to be part of our solution? Do you have one of the skills we need right NOW?

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PAAO has opportunities for you to participate in creating awareness and the harm done to children, by volunteering to do any of the following;

1. Manage our Twitter account 
2. Write Press releases (at least 2X per month) 
3. Someone in Ontario who is familiar with Ontario charity legislation who can assist with gaining what is known as a lottery license. 
4. A manager for our Pinterest account who also has some graphics abilities.

If you are ready and able to help us, or know of someone else who is, please respond to this newsletter or email sarvy@paawareness.org 
with the subject line volunteer. You will be aiding a great cause which may be personal for you too.

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Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Parental Rights- Calling Congress: A Need and a Primer

UPDATE: Call/Write your Congressman-Vital for Our Families, Our Children, Our Future

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June 25, 2013
Calling Congress: A Need and a Primer
Last Tuesday Rep. Mark Meadows (R-NC) and 39 other congressmen introduced the Parental Rights Amendment, HJRes. 50, in the U.S. House of Representatives. Since then, 4 more cosponsors have signed on in support.

Other congressmen, however, have communicated that they are waiting to hear from more of their constituents. In some districts, this makes sense: your contacts provide them with cover. Should anyone call to oppose our resolution, your congressman can tell them, “I have heard from dozens/scores/hundreds/thousands (as the case may be) of other constituents who support this Amendment.”

I have to admit, though, that when a congressman says, “I want to hear from more people in my district before I sign on,” I can’t help but hear a challenge. My mental response is, “Yeah? Be careful what you wish for....”

In that spirit, we would like to generate as many calls to Congress as we can (except to those who are already cosponsors) encouraging them to sign on to the Amendment. Here’s all you need to do to make that happen – whether you favor the easy approach or building long-term relationships.

The Easy Approach
Maybe you’ve never called before; maybe you’ve been concerned it would take up too much time or effort. This “easy approach” is for you. You can probably place your call in a minute or less.

1. Visit ParentalRights.org/States and click on your state (either on the map or using the two-letter postal abbreviation in the right sidebar). On your state’s page, locate your lawmaker’s D.C. phone number and call.

2. A member of your congressman’s staff (usually a receptionist, but perhaps an intern) will answer the phone. Identify yourself and be sure to tell them you are a constituent.

3. Politely tell them why you are calling, including the specific action you would like to see, the name and number of the item about which you are calling, and how the office can take action.

In this case, it might go like this: “I am calling to urge the Congressman to cosponsor HJRes. 50, the Parental Rights Amendment. You can contact Patrick Fleming in Mark Meadows’ office to sign on.” You can add a line or two about why parents’ rights are so vital to you (our website is full of ideas) and why the Congressman needs to preserve them through this Amendment.

4. The staff person will most likely take your message; you can thank them and hang up. There is a chance, though, that they will offer to transfer you to the person handling that issue. In that case, simply tell that staff person what you told the receptionist. It is that simple.

The Relational Approach
Maybe you’re ready to invest more time and effort in seeing the Amendment pass. It can still be pretty simple. Here’s all you do:

1. Visit ParentalRights.org/States and click on your state either on the map or the sidebar. On your state’s page, locate your representative’s D.C. phone number and give them a call.

2. A staff person will answer the phone – likely a receptionist or an intern. Try to catch their name and use it. Identify yourself, tell them you are a constituent, and tell them that you are calling to support the Parental Rights Amendment. Then ask, “Who in your office handles that issue?” and ask to be transferred to that person. Be sure to write down the name (and position if you get it). You will want to build a rapport with this person.

3. There is a good chance that person will not be immediately available. You can be transferred to their voice mail, or you can ask if you could get their email address and simply email them. If you email, you might attach a copy of HJRes50 so they don’t have to look it up.

4. Politely tell them why you are calling, including the specific action you would like to see, the name and number of the item about which you are calling, and how the office can take action. (See the example in #3 of the Easy Approach).

Be sure to mention why parents’ rights are so vital to you (our website is full of ideas) and why the Congressman needs to preserve them through this Amendment.

5. If you are talking live (as opposed to leaving a voice mail or email), ask them two simple questions (if you feel comfortable enough): “Was your office already familiar with this Amendment?” And “Do you know of any concerns the congressman has with the Amendment that I might be able to get answered for you?”

If you get these two questions answered, share that with us. We can provide answers to your congressman’s concerns. This will help you build relationships in that office by establishing that you are capable and informed. Even if they have no questions, you have made yourself a resource for them, which helps define your relationship.

6. Follow up. Call again later. Ask by name for the person taking care of the PRA. Ask if they have any questions you can get answered so the congressman can sign on. When they’re in their state offices over July 4 week or in August, you might even drop by for a brief visit.

Over time, you can develop a relationship with them – even if they are from “the wrong party.” Find common ground, remain friendly and respectful, and help them to see that protecting parents in just common sense. Offer them your help in understanding our cause. That staff member you befriend can influence your congressman to support your parental rights.

Whichever path fits you, please take the time now to call. Together we can move the Amendment forward in this Congress – then move it to the Senate and the States.


Michael Ramey
Director of Communications & Research
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Thoughts on: Declaration of Family Rights

We the undersigned believe it is time for one of our most fundamental Human Rights to be recognized and protected. 
Just one of the many petitions that are popping up on the internet for the "Declaration of Family Rights".
As one reads this, please keep in mind that the Original intent of creating an agency to Protect Our children were:
  1. Protecting Children
  2. Strengthening Families 
If one goes to the Child Welfare Information Gateway Please notice the Heading>>https://www.childwelfare.gov/includes/reskin/images/cwig_logo.gif 
We talk of Reform, when in reality it's not the issue of Reform.. But instead maintaining the Balance between Protecting Children and Strengthening Families... Yes, the Best Interest of the Child is the alleged priority... However, a Strong Family Core can actually Protect our Children.

So Check the words of this Petition:

The right to be secure in our families and free of government interference in our private lives.   
We ask you to support the following "Declaration of Family Rights":

That when a child is born, both biological parents have a right to know. A child has a right to both parents in their lives. Fit parents decide what is in the 'best interests' of their children. Good, average, & poor parents are Fit & Equal parents.

That you and your spouse have a right to be presumed Fit & Equal parents (equal in terms of both physical and legal custody).

If anyone (a spouse, relative, social services) wishes to challenge these rights, you have:
1) The right to counsel.
2) The right to be presumed a fit parent, innocent, and deserving of an equal relationship with your kids.
3) The right to protection of a criminal jury. The "state"needs to prove you were a demonstrated serious and intentional threat to your child's safety and that you acted with mal-intent towards your children.
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Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Scotland Bill Proposes Massive Invasion of Every Family

This Could be Coming to America--Be Aware
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June 11, 2013

Bill Proposes Massive Invasion of Every Family
The government of Scotland is proposing the ultimate invasion of the family in order to “protect” children. According to legislation proposed by the government (and which faces no organized opposition), a social worker will be assigned to monitor each and every child from birth. The government social worker would have the authority and responsibility to “safeguard the wellbeing of the child or young person” through “(i) advising, informing, or supporting the child…, (ii) helping the child…to access a service or support, or (iii) discussing, or raising, a matter about the child” with other government agencies.1

In short, every child will be assigned his own mandatory reporter/government monitor from birth.

According to the bill itself, this legislation is proposed to comply with Scotland’s duties under the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC, or CRC)2 which —like the related Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities (CRPD)—requires that the government ensure that in every decision the “best interests” of the child be the paramount consideration. According to international law scholar and University of London professor Geraldine Van Bueren, this “Best interests [standard] provides decision and policy makers with the authority to substitute their own decisions for either the child’s or the parents’, providing it is based on considerations of the best interest of the child.”3

Appointing a social worker to monitor every child in the nation is the logical response to the demand from the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child in 2008 that the United Kingdom should establish independent Children’s Commissioners “equipped with the necessary human and financial resources in order…that the rights of all children in all parts of the State party are safeguarded.”4

“This is the most invasive, anti-parent proposal since ancient Sparta,” said Michael Farris, President of Parentalrights.org. The Supreme Court in Meyer v. Nebraska gave us this explanation of the Spartan practice that Farris references:

In order to submerge the individual and develop ideal citizens, Sparta assembled the males at [age] seven into barracks and entrusted their subsequent education and training to official guardians. Although such measures have been deliberately approved by men of great genius their ideas touching the relation between individual and state were wholly different from those upon which our institutions rest; and it hardly will be affirmed that any Legislature could impose such restrictions upon the people of a state without doing violence to both letter and spirit of the Constitution.5
Sadly, while Scotland was once based on foundations similar to our own, they are abandoning these vital principles.

“The recognition of the importance of privacy, of the authority of parents and the protection of this privacy and authority by society is declining fast,” Stuart Walton explained in an interview with Lifesite News. Walton is a sociology and criminology lecturer at Albertay University in Dundee. “Today it is assumed parenting is simply too hard, children are simply too vulnerable, and risks are simply too great to allow for this luxury called ‘privacy’. This is why nobody is attacking this new bill….”6

Minister for Children and Young People Aileen Campbell (MSP) pretty well agrees, though she sees no problem with that. Campbell asserts, "Children and young people deserve services that can intervene more effectively and earlier in their lives and that listen and take full account of their views and rights. Achieving this involves a programme of change that is not limited to any one service, but embraces a change in the culture and practice of all services that affect the lives of children, young people and their families."7

There is no consideration for family privacy or the right of parents to direct a child’s upbringing. Apparently, if the destruction of these liberties is the only way to ensure this early intervention, Scotland is willing to pay that price.

The Privacy Impact Report of the Scottish government reflects this: “As wellbeing becomes the focus, information sharing will become more common and may at times occur contrary to the wishes of the child or family; this may result in the child or family having a lack of trust.8 Despite this, the bill continues uncontested in the Scottish Parliament.

In contrast, our Supreme Court has held that “the statist notion that governmental power should supersede parental authority in all cases because some parents abuse and neglect children is repugnant to the American tradition.”9

Sadly, though, policy leaders and lawmakers in America are looking to lead us away from our roots, onto the same path that Scotland has adopted.

Coming to America?
The CRPD, which was narrowly defeated by a 61-38 vote in December (only 5 votes shy of the two-thirds majority needed for passage), is once again rumored to be on the agenda of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee. If ratified, this treaty would eliminate the legal presumption of parental fitness and introduce in its place this “best interests of the child” standard.

To combat this trend, the proposed Parental Rights Amendment contains language that protects the presumption of parental fitness, as well as a section to prevent the use of any source of international law in overriding the liberty of parents to raise their child. Once this Amendment is adopted by Congress and ratified by 38 states, the danger of these treaties to American families will be neutralized.

Action Items
In the short term, we must convince the Senate not to ratify the CRPD. If you have not already done so, please call your senators and urge them to preserve parental rights and family privacy by rejecting the ratification of this treaty. You can call the Capitol Switchboard at (202)-224-3121 or find your senator’s office phone number by clicking on your state at ParentalRights.org/States.

The long term solution, however, is to adopt the Parental Rights Amendment to the U.S. Constitution. Encourage your congressman to become an original cosponsor of this important resolution

To see whether your congressman is already a sponsor, and to find contact information for their D.C. office, click on your state at ParentalRights.org/States. If your congressman is not already a cosponsor, ask that he contact Patrick Fleming in Rep. Mark Meadows’ office to sign on.

Only through perseverance together can we prevent America from stumbling onto Scotland's dangerous and tyrannical path.


Michael Ramey
Director of Communications & Research

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If you don't know your Rights. You have none.
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An instructional manual of preventative and protective measures to help protect against and prepare for legal actions against you as a Foster, Adoptive, or Biological Parent. A road map, if you will, for the legal maneuverings  and allegations brought toward you as a Parent and/or those children you have a protective/parenting obligation to.
    To know and protect your rights and, if necessary, to organize your own case in a professional manner should there be a legal encounter for either you or the children.


Wednesday, June 5, 2013

CCHR Florida Awarded "Best of 2013" for service to our customers and our community!

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Citizens Commission On Rights Receives 2013 Best of Clearwater Award

Clearwater Award Program Honors the Achievement

CLEARWATER May 22, 2013 -- Citizens Commission On Rights has been selected for the 2013 Best of Clearwater Award in the Human Services Organizations category by the Clearwater Award Program.

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Various sources of information were gathered and analyzed to choose the winners in each category. The 2013 Clearwater Award Program focuses on quality, not quantity. Winners are determined based on the information gathered both internally by the Clearwater Award Program and data provided by third parties.

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May you find Strength in Your Higher Power,
Granpa Chuck
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Monday, June 3, 2013

Welcome to the Island of Common Sense?

 Thoughts to Consider

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 Many of you have heard me use the phrase “on my island”. 
My island would be called The Isle of Common Sense.
Here are some of the highlights of living on Common Sense….
  • Anyone who hurts a child, female or senior citizen would be taken to the beach and told to start walking into the ocean. Strong swimming skills are a must for mopes on the Isle of Common Sense.
  • No one would receive any monetary benefits unless they worked. If needed, neighbors would help neighbors….but not to the point of enabling. If you don’t work, you will not be permitted to have an iPhone. That’s just logic. We would take care of the disabled or infirm. Able-bodied people must carry the water or swim. It’s called tough love.
  • No drugs on Common Sense. We get high from living life. If you have drugs, have strong swimming skills.
  • The police officers would have no need to carry guns. We would all be trained in Judo, similar to the skills learned by Deputy Barney Fife from the Judo School in Mt. Pilot. Our hands would be lethal weapons. Chuck Norris would be our training officer.
  • Loud, floral patterned shirts would be very acceptable, in spite of Mrs. Chief and the chief children insisting that I not wear them. It’s my island.
  • Elected people would not get paid. The only mandatory meeting for them would be to plan the yearly festival. They would also count on only themselves to get elected. No political commercials or special interest groups. It muddles everyone’s thoughts.
  • Police cars would be those dune-buggy type vehicles. I have always wanted to drive a dune buggy.
  • We would all still meet on Facebook. Common Sense would still have internet sensations.
  • If you steal on Common Sense, you have to work in the store or for the person you stole from to work off the offense. If you steal again, you swim.
  • You could sleep with your doors and windows open on Common Sense. If someone violated your space, we would judo chop them…Chuck Norris style.
  • Daughters could only date after the age of 25. Their date would have to have a college degree, a job and house.
  • There will be no baggie pants on the Isle of Common Sense. We do not want to see your underwear.
  • Hugging will replace handshakes as the routine form of greeting.
Welcome to the Isle of Common Sense…..Chief Oliver
May you find Strength in Your Higher Power,
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